Friday, November 12, 2010

Getting Back to Normal Can Take Weeks

First of all- I know Two Babies that are a month old today! Time fly's when you're having fun . . . or aren't raising babies you just birthed!

I can't believe it's already been one month since Gideon and Harper were born. I have a feeling my last 4 weeks have been completely different from N and D's . . . just as it was different than George and Sanj's first month.

I have been losing weight and they have been losing sleep. I have been trying to get my life "back to normal" and their "normal" has changed forever.


For me, it's been a hard getting things "back to normal" this time around. Being on bed rest for several weeks was great because the babies stayed in for almost 38 weeks and helped my swelling come down but boy did it SUCK! It's almost impossible to take care of 3 kids and a business while on bed rest. Thankfully, my mom came up again (like last time) for a few weeks to help out. I was able to drive to doctors appointments, so Tuesdays and Fridays were a dream. I would actually do my hair and make-up because I had someplace to go . . . well, usually I would. I guess the one day STAR Magazine decided to take a picture of me (for an article that came out in an early November issue) I had neither my hair nor my make-up done. Luckily, the article was very nice but the picture, well, I guess it could've been worse . . . I could've been bending over or picking my nose. I even had several customers tell me they couldn't believe that was a picture of me, because "I'm so pretty in person" . . . LOL . . . yeah, usually I'm photogenic too, but what are you gonna do?! But I digress . . .

Once I got home from the hospital, I wanted things to go back to normal (after weeks of doing nothing) but recovering from surgery doesn't quite make that an option. So for the last few weeks, I've been taking it easy, trying not to re-open my "baby wound" and longing for the day I can lift heavy things at work and re-join the Gym. I have a 2-4 more weeks until that can happen, but I know it's coming and that makes me happy.

I also rejoined Facebook, for sanity's sake. I thought it best to dump my Facebook back in August, after the news of my IPs expecting leaked. It was hard enough not telling anyone about who my Intended Parents were, but with all the coincidences piling up (surrogacy, twins, October due date, Disneyland trip) . . . it became impossible. Friends would ask, "Are you their Surrogate" or "I think I know who your IP's are . . . am I right?" I would just email/text/say back, "How cool would that be?" It has been great to get back on and interact with everyone. I really missed seeing what all my friends were up to.

Lastly, I am going to do a post about "The Blues" that a lot of Surrogates, including myself, go through after the birth . . . so there will be a bit more of "getting back to normal" in that post too. But for now, I have to sign off . . . have normal mom stuff to do- laundry, Doctor's appointments and Dinner to think about. I guess my NORMAL, for the most part, has returned.

7 comments:

AnGèLe said...

I was so impatient after the birth of my surrobabe. I didnt have that constant reminder that I just had a baby so I was getting really frustrated with how long things were taking to return to normal! BE kind to yourself..you had 2 babies! Your body is in overtime to heal! ;) Add me to FB!! :)

Anonymous said...

you did such an amazing job! you are truly a wonderful surrogate, mother and wife. i am so proud of you and i don't even know you but i feel like i do through your blog. you are PRECIOUS and wonderful. xo

-A set of adoring IF's.

Anonymous said...

I love reading your blog!!! It's so great,I can't wait to read more! You are an Amazing Human Being! A Gift to the World,I must say!!!!!Hang in there and Let the Blue come out and Let the Healing coming in!Sending you Love to your Heart and Healing to your Mind. Just take it Slow and Enjoy every Minute.Peace~

Heidi said...

I'm glad thing are getting back to "normal". It sure is nice to know that I am not the only one out there going through ups and downs...hang in there. You are such an inspiration and you did a wonderful thing...

Baby Maker said...

oh my gosh kelly that is awesome! You are lucky to have had IPs that care...famous or not! Take time to heal. I still go through the "man i wish my body was just normal again". It is hard to go, oh yeah, i just had twins 7 mos ago...things take time. Take care

Madgew said...

Love your blog. You are amazing. I am reading a lot of your posts.
Madge
thenextfamily.com

McMama said...

I look forward to reading your "post-surrogate letdown" post, because I know I am going to experience this to some degree, and I'd like to know what I'm in for.