Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Happy 4th Birthday Natasha & Anjali!!!

Four years ago today, I gave birth to my first set of surrogate twins. I had hoped throughout that journey, that we'd all still be in each others lives as time went on. So far, so good!

The kids and I were able to drive over to visit my girlies and George, Menaka and Logi (Cousin/Grandma) both were at their birth . . . however, Sanj was being a Yoga Hottie in India, so I missed him this visit.

You can find some several pictures of the last five years, including pics from this weekend on my Facebook Album for my Surrogacy Journey #1 Here . . . . it is set to public, so everyone should be able to see it.

Can't wait for the next several years!

A reminder of their birth story can be found here:

Birth Story Part 1

Birth Story Part 2

My Kids visit

And when the Girls Went Home

They are sooooo very smart and beautiful and a joy to be around. George and Sanj have done such a wonderful job raising these two and I know they will continue to be stellar parents.

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

A Personal Update . . . Happiness!

I have been a horrible blogger the last few months. My focus for the last year was to love on my kids as much as possible, to deliver a healthy baby for my M and S and to find myself . . . all while learning what my new normal looked like.

The first few months were shaky but the last several have been amazing. In June, I moved cities and soon after gave birth. Since then my children started a new school, I was able to teach a class this semester and have found my non-pregnancy groove. I have been able to spend more time with local friends, become closer to some and meet new people too.

I had been blogging about Surrogacy for The Next Family for about two years and since my journey, moved to blogging about Divorce and the new direction my life has taken.

The link to all my Surrogacy blogs at TNF can be found HERE. *at the bottom of page it will say NEXT PAGE, for previous posts too . . .

To receive the link to my other blogs, please message me on Facebook under Kelly Tharp or email me.

After the baby was born, I continued to love on my kiddos and spend as much time with them as possible. I also started to focus on trying to find a Full time job since I lose my Health and Dental Insurance January 1st. I have not had good luck but I am on schedule to have three classes at the college next semester. I won't have insurance and won't make a lot of money but I will be able to teach, make a little something and still take my kids to school, pick them up and help transport them on the days that aren't mine. I am going to try to find other part time opportunities, teaching or otherwise, to try to supplement my income, so wish me luck.

The other thing I have been focusing on is love. Learning to love myself and I also accidentally fell in love with someone. I will talk more about both of these things but for now will just drop the bomb and then come back later to discuss it all . . . when? where? what? how? seriously? all of it. I promise. For now, you just need to know that I am the happiest I have ever been. After December, I decided it was time to be myself, to go for what my heart desires. Life is too short to waste any more years trying to make someone else's definition of love try to work. I am tired of pushing down thoughts, feelings, desires, things that come so naturally but that I was never brave enough to go for.

I first came out to myself, then a few close friends and some family.

When I saw the picture below, I knew I could do it-

Next, I came out to my children, my ex, his family, more friends and family and finally Facebook. I forgot to tell you all and I'm sorry about that. I meant to on National Coming Out Day . . . but then I forgot . . . I seem to forget a lot lately, love does that, you know.

And here are a few pics of my girlfriend Erin and I . . .