Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Does My Uterus Need a Life Alert?

So today is my birthday. Usually, I could care less about being another year older but this year, for some reason, I'm feeling old. Actually, it's my uterus that is getting old. I've heard that 36 is the new 26 . . . . well, unless you're a Surrogate, then you might as well be 80!

Here's the thing . . . at 36 is when the insurance Growing Generations uses for Surrogacy goes up. Now, they aren't calling you old, they're just saying your uterus has seen better days, years, in fact. You can still be a Surrogate, it's just that your IPs will have to pay a little bit more to insure your old, worn uterus.

I'm not saying that I would for sure be a Surrogate for the third time but it's nice to know it's an option and I guess it is, as long as I don't waste time deciding. In my mind, if either set of my IPs asked for me to carry for them again, I would say YES. I have developed a wonderful relationship with both couples and think it would be cool to help provide another child for them. However, I know George and Sanj's family was complete with Natasha and Anjali and my other IPs have 3 week old twins . . . so I'm going to guess they aren't thinking of extending their family just yet. (Even though, as crazy as it seems, it would be something you'd need to start thinking about because the Surrogacy process is far from lightening fast).

Most of my friends and family have already asked me (even before I delivered) if this was the last time. I'd just tell them, I don't know, but it probably is. I think I'm in denial that my Surrogacy days are probably over, if I don't say I'm 100% not ever going to do this again, I don't have to think how sad that would be. Kind of like after giving birth to Sawyer, my youngest, I knew he was it for us but I didn't want to say it aloud, or that would make it true.

So for now, I'm not going to say never . . . but that it's pretty unlikely. I have dreams of a tummy tuck and it would be great not to be pregnant at my 20th High School reunion. Not to mention my uterus may go from "beautiful" to "she looks good for her age" . . . which I suppose is a lot better than "I've fallen and I can't get up!"


Heather said...

I was thinking about you this morning on this very topic even before I knew it was your birthday. I am glad you posted on it. Even happier that you said the age was 36, I thought I had to get moving before I turned 35 so you gave me a little more wiggle room if I decide to try again for round #3 of being a surro. Then again it would be birth number 7 and that puts a whole new spin on things.....
Anyway - your newest IP's might have 3 week old twins, but that also means you are only 3 weeks postpartum, so give yourself time to get back to 'normal' and go from there. Don't count yourself out too soon!! I'm sure your uterus is still gorgeous!!
...and Happy Birthday again!

Mommy with Many Gifts said...

Happy birthday!! And, you look WAY younger than 36 (not saying 36 is old or anything, but I had always assumed you were in your late twenties)!! By the sounds of it all, I think I really like your agency. (Funny thing is, my IP's worked with GG before me and switched over when they weren't getting success). I'm only 26 and my agency made me seem like my surrogacy days were already getting up there!! I think they may have different policies when it comes to age. It is a very hard decision to make, another journey or not?? I keep going back and forth on this one. I know I have some years of "quality uterus" ahead of me, but I kind of want to knock them out sooner than later... I want a little lift and tuck too =) Anyway, whatever you decide, just remember that you are an amazing person for doing what you have done. And if you choose to do it again, you rock!!!