Wednesday, November 21, 2012

A Personal Update . . . Happiness!

I have been a horrible blogger the last few months. My focus for the last year was to love on my kids as much as possible, to deliver a healthy baby for my M and S and to find myself . . . all while learning what my new normal looked like.

The first few months were shaky but the last several have been amazing. In June, I moved cities and soon after gave birth. Since then my children started a new school, I was able to teach a class this semester and have found my non-pregnancy groove. I have been able to spend more time with local friends, become closer to some and meet new people too.

I had been blogging about Surrogacy for The Next Family for about two years and since my journey, moved to blogging about Divorce and the new direction my life has taken.

The link to all my Surrogacy blogs at TNF can be found HERE. *at the bottom of page it will say NEXT PAGE, for previous posts too . . .

To receive the link to my other blogs, please message me on Facebook under Kelly Tharp or email me.

After the baby was born, I continued to love on my kiddos and spend as much time with them as possible. I also started to focus on trying to find a Full time job since I lose my Health and Dental Insurance January 1st. I have not had good luck but I am on schedule to have three classes at the college next semester. I won't have insurance and won't make a lot of money but I will be able to teach, make a little something and still take my kids to school, pick them up and help transport them on the days that aren't mine. I am going to try to find other part time opportunities, teaching or otherwise, to try to supplement my income, so wish me luck.

The other thing I have been focusing on is love. Learning to love myself and I also accidentally fell in love with someone. I will talk more about both of these things but for now will just drop the bomb and then come back later to discuss it all . . . when? where? what? how? seriously? all of it. I promise. For now, you just need to know that I am the happiest I have ever been. After December, I decided it was time to be myself, to go for what my heart desires. Life is too short to waste any more years trying to make someone else's definition of love try to work. I am tired of pushing down thoughts, feelings, desires, things that come so naturally but that I was never brave enough to go for.

I first came out to myself, then a few close friends and some family.

When I saw the picture below, I knew I could do it-

Next, I came out to my children, my ex, his family, more friends and family and finally Facebook. I forgot to tell you all and I'm sorry about that. I meant to on National Coming Out Day . . . but then I forgot . . . I seem to forget a lot lately, love does that, you know.

And here are a few pics of my girlfriend Erin and I . . .

12 comments:

Roz said...

Wow, this has been an amazing update, from someone who has followed for a long time. I am so so happy for you, you deserve this and more but I am also a little jealous too. I love your bravery, determination and mind set. May be one day i can be the same! Congratulations!

Madgew said...

From the day I found you for TNF, I knew you were are it girl. You have filled our pages with amazing stories of love, life and triumph. When I met you, I knew I had made a friend for life. You are an amazing Mom, daughter, friend and nothing has made me happier than to see you evolve and become the person you were meant to be. I have traveled with you for the last few years and seen remarkable growth. I love you Kelly and am so glad you are in my life and that you are so happy. I knew when I met you your day of shining was going to be brighter than you could ever imagine.

Michael said...

I'm glad to see things are going so well for you. Congratulations on making it through some tough times and finding a beautiful life. Keep posting...I love your updates.

Tiffany said...

I am so happy to hear you have found your joy. It took my first husband leaving me to realize I had never truly been happy. I am so grateful to him for that, at least. :-) I hope every awesome person whose partner up and leaves ends up as lucky as us. :-)

Anonymous said...

I love this update! I'm so happy for you :) I've followed this surrogacy journey and check back daily. Enjoy every day of life with your family. They are beautiful!

Merr said...

Congratulations on finding yourself and your happiness!!! Welcome to "our" side of the fence!

Glenna said...

Well done Kelly! I am happy to see that smile that has always warmed my heart. Honestly, I am finally glad that you are honest with yourself. I know how much you wanted the wedding, the children and a fabulous life lead by your standards. I never thought your ex fit the bill. But I loved him cuz I loved you. Now on to the real business at hand. A woman to understands how lucky she is to find a woman like you to complete the family you deserve. I am happy for you Kelly and wish you wonderful years to come. Love always, Glenna

Glenna said...

Well done Kelly! I am happy to see that smile that has always warmed my heart. Honestly, I am finally glad that you are honest with yourself. I know how much you wanted the wedding, the children and a fabulous life lead by your standards. I never thought your ex fit the bill. But I loved him cuz I loved you. Now on to the real business at hand. A woman to understands how lucky she is to find a woman like you to complete the family you deserve. I am happy for you Kelly and wish you wonderful years to come. Love always, Glenna

Glenna said...

Well done Kelly! I am happy to see that smile that has always warmed my heart. Honestly, I am finally glad that you are honest with yourself. I know how much you wanted the wedding, the children and a fabulous life lead by your standards. I never thought your ex fit the bill. But I loved him cuz I loved you. Now on to the real business at hand. A woman to understands how lucky she is to find a woman like you to complete the family you deserve. I am happy for you Kelly and wish you wonderful years to come. Love always, Glenna

Anonymous said...

I do not know you Kelly, but I`am proud that you have the courage to find your true self. You seem happy and that's what counts. Love is Love

I've been following your blogs for many years, hope you will continue to blog.

Anonymous said...

It's me again, who wrote the last message. But this is private to you.

I found two videos you were in Australia, I thought you'd like to see them (if you not already have )

Surrogacy Laws in Australia
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0yVpg2EoeIU

Surrogacy Australia interview: Interview on Channel 10 Breakfast Show with Sam Everingham, Kim Bergman & Kelly
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=505b3TiPf-M&sns=em


And if you have not seen:
Oprah’s Next Chapter’: Neil Patrick Harris and his fiancĂ© David Burtka with their Twins (full interview)


http://nerdnawesome.tumblr.com/post/25178425663/oprahs-next-chapter-neil-patrick-harris-and-his

What you want to do with the links is entirely up to you. You can keep them for yourself or share them with your readers. It's up to you, but I thought you'd see them. If you have not already have!

Anonymous said...

Hi

I hope I'm not overstepping my bounds but how do you select intended parents? We just made the decision to go with a surrogate and have no idea where to start.